Are you seeking help for yourself or someone else? Why are you seeking help?
My goal in these articles is to share what has worked for me and others from my experience. I (Eric R) am presently coming up on 22 years clean time. I did not seek help even though my life had no purpose. I had no job, no money, no drivers license, and never graduated from high school. In 1989 when I decided to seek help I only had a place to live at my Mother’s house; everything else was gone.
The image we get of an addict is usually the drunken skid row bum. This is not the reality. Statistics show that 90% of the world’s drug and alcohol addicts are: fully functional, hold a job, and is a dad or mom, in a position of authority. Functional addicts may never seek help. Addiction has symptoms and phases that progress just like a disease. Even if the person loses everything and becomes homeless, many will still not seek help. Only after almost dying from an overdose twice and then being beaten with a bat while buying drugs did I seek help.
Sometimes people who care can intervene and help a person seek (get) help before things get really bad. When things get really bad it is called a “bottom”. One may hit many bottoms on their way down to THE bottom. An intervention can raise the bottom instantly so a person will seek help right away.
Interventions can be as simple as not rescuing the addict and letting them suffer the consequences of their actions. For example: the addict oversleeps and wants you to call their boss after a bender, a night of binge drinking. If you refuse to call for them and they may feel the consequences and seek help, especially if they see it is the substance abuse that is causing the consequences.
In a major intervention, you gather a lot of people together and each take turns speaking to the person.
It is important to have a plan setup for a rehab and recovery program. This should only be done with advice and a well thought out plan for success.
Orlando’s CR Ministry
In Orlando’s CR ministry, we have a person write a Journal that contains an account of their life experiences before, during, and after getting clean from drug use. It must contain three things in detail: 1.What was used 2.What happened when you used (during, after including consequences) 3. How you felt (an emotional connection with the pain is a tool for staying clean). In Narcotics Anonymous (N.A.), it is called “keeping it green”. There are many tools that an addict can use to fight to stay clean. The battle takes place in my mind. To illustrate: I see a memory of getting high and a voice says “remember how good that felt” or “this will make you feel better”. These thoughts can pop into our minds when we are feeling bad so it’s smart to be equipped with this tool (the journal).
The tool is simple: when the tape plays in my head and using drugs looks good to me, I simply switch the tape to the real account including the consequences. I am reminded of the pain associated with using the drug that would again “feel so good”. If I remember what it was really like, I would not use. I would get honest with myself and other people who are helping me. They can create a defense against the temptation to use when it comes. There is a saying in the readings of N.A.: “Meetings keep us in touch with where we have been and more importantly where we are going in our recovery”. If you have not written out an honest account of your using, “where you’ve been” and “how bad is really was”, you are at risk of using again. Going to meetings and just listening can also help you connect with the painful feelings associated with using.
These are just a few points about seeking help. Go to a meeting and get away from people that get high. Start hanging with people that want to enjoy life without a mood-altering substance.
Future topics include:
- Pain management, prescription medications and addiction
- Mental diagnosis and addiction treatment
- Types of recovery programs available
- Dealing with consequences
- Getting connected: The importance of relationships.
- The importance of a Higher Power?
- Recommended: Books, movies.